Facing Problems

From Courage to Change, page 121, April 30:

I have no idea why the faucet in my bathroom started dripping. Handling the situation with great patience, I watched it drip. And drip and drip. Sometimes I tried adjusting the knob, but I really expected it to stop dripping by itself. Naturally it didn’t work out that way. The problem got worse and eventually did extensive damage. Finally I had to call for help. Continue reading


Forcing a Solution

Excerpted from One Day At A Time In Al-Anon page 116, April 25:

…the more I try to force the issue, with tears, reproaches and threats, the worse it gets.

Al-Anon can help me to cope with the situation in an entirely different way, by showing me how to recognize and correct my mistaken attempts to force a solution…. Continue reading

Easy Does It

From Courage to Change, p 115, April 24

When something isn’t working the way I think it should, I can think about the slogan, “Easy Does It.” Instead of redoubling my effort, I can slow down and reassess the situation. The answer I seek may be staring me in the face, but sometimes I have to let go of what I’m doing before I can see it. Continue reading


Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, so that you may be healed.   ~James 5:16

As Christians we can understand that confessing the wrong things that we have done does not make us forgiven. We are forgiven because Christ died to pay for our sins. Confession is a means by which we can experience our forgiveness, not obtain it.

We work Step 5 not to be forgiven of sin but so we can enjoy the benefits of the forgiveness God already has given us.

~Pat Springle, Conquering Codependency

My Reminder for Today…

My reminder for today, from One Day at a Time in Al-Anon, page 36:

Let me learn to understand myself first; that will occupy me so fully that I will have no time nor thought to analyze and criticize [others].


Each one should test his own actions. Then he can take pride in himself alone, without comparing himself to someone else .  ~Galatians 6:4