Romance

I am in an emotionally healthy relationship!  One that does not trigger codependency, anxiety, or clinginess in me!  This is a new thing.

I’m beginning to realize how much I appreciate the small things in a relationship.

• A man who wants me in his life, is not afraid to say that to me and to the world, and goes to great lengths to pursue me.
• Being able to text “I miss you” in the middle of a workday, without stopping to wonder if that’s too clingy.  Every text from me is welcomed wholeheartedly.
• Pacing the relationship properly:  being able to enjoy the early stages of a relationship without jumping right into bed with someone.
• Getting two or three phone calls a day from a man who wants to talk to me and hear all about my day.
• Sweet texts at unexpected times.
• Roses.
• Being treated to lots of dinners, movies, and concerts, with no expectations of anything from me in return.
• Holding hands in church.  Holding hands at dinner.  Holding hands on a walk.  Holding hands at the movies.  I love holding hands!
• Two-hour phone conversations.
• Being able to be a bitch accidentally, realize it, apologize for it, and move on, without it ever turning into an argument.
• Not having to check myself for codependent, approval-seeking behavior.  I already have his approval, and he verbalizes that approval regularly.
• Hearing every day that I’m beautiful.

I was not looking for this.  After the fairly recent pain of a broken relationship, there was no way I wanted to put myself out there to get hurt again.  However, looking for it or not, I found it, and it’s wonderful.